change can be kinda funky

all changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another. ~anatole france

for those of you new to this blog, i recently moved out of the corporate world. i have not been happier in i don’t know how long. the freedom i feel, the excitement of possibility, the people i’ve already met and things i’ve already learned are amazing. (and fun!)

naturally, there is a flip side to all of this. when a person makes a major change in life, a few things tend to go along with it that may be unexpected.

1) your relationships will change

you’re changing. whether it’s a career change, a move to a new city or making difficult decisions that are right for you but others don’t understand, your environment and what you do, where you go, who you meet will be different. you’ll become stronger, bolder, less unsure of yourself. you’ll get your sense of humor back or lose the biting sarcasm. major life changes affect how you view and interact with the world and those in it, so your relationships will shift. some will deepen and become richer and even more important. some won’t. some people won’t be able to move forward with you, and you’ll have to move on. that’s okay. other relationships will come into your life that will support you in where you’re trying to go. give it time.

2) Things do not happen overnight.

speaking of time, things usually take more time than we’d like. we know what we want. we can see it. but just like losing weight happens a pound at a time, whatever change you’re making happens in lots of small steps. celebrate small victories and keep moving forward, taking action and making good choices each day, and one day you’ll get there.

3) Transition feels funky.

the first couple of days out of my corporate life, i caught myself walking around my house kind of wondering what to do. i felt great. i had plenty to do and was plenty busy. but it just felt….well….weird. even the most positive changes are going to feel awkward for a bit while you adjust. it’s almost like learning to walk again. stay focused. but that funky feeling is a feeling that will just go away as the new habits and routines become familiar.

change happens in stages, and a lot of emotion accompanies it. simply knowing this, being aware and accepting these stages of change, can help ease the transition a bit. don’t let a little awkwardness that comes with change keep you from doing exactly the thing you’ve set out to do.

all the best!
deb

Comments

[HR Wench]

Love the quote!

[Quinisha Watkins]

Hey, I think you have a great thing your doing here. I agree with the change being funky. I ask people how did it feel and they never really respond. Thanks for the honesty. I'm there now in my life, with wanting to start myself a business. When I decided to be an at home mother, I didn't think life would seem to get even harder! I had to come up with a strategy quick. Ontop of that, I had got married! Talking about change in emotions, friends, money,time and the list continues. Change to me is good as well as full of stress. i've learned a lot about life and patience and those are two great things to accomplish!

[deb]

learning about life and patience is a good thing! (i really need to work on that 2nd thing though.)
;-)

all the best!
deb